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My brain was numb, like the day I took that sex ed. class in 6th grade, two weeks ago. I was cornfoosed by what I saw. To me, what I saw were a collection of seemingly disjointed imagery. Sure, I know they all associated with one another, but I just wasn’t making the connection and the movie ended with a thud, sort of like working up to a violently explosive erection only to falter at the summit of ecstasy. What the shit is that? I dismissed the piece of shit movie and those that heralded it as an Oscar worthy work. Kiss mah grits, Flo! The Tree of Life is something that leaves one much to ponder and it is a bit deeper than I thought, quite a lot actually. I’m sure I still missed the point of the movie, but it made me think and made me look at what my memories are and how they affect me. Good one, Terrence Malick, now go make a porno. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Opinion Tagged in: memories, tree of life Well, as some of you know, my partner in crime at the Urban Dater, Taylor, has decided to say goodbye.stripchat can a green be made knight It’s sad, but awesome at the same time.
I told her she’s kinda come full circle since she came on board to carry her share of the load with the site. I don’t think the Urban Dater would be where it’s at without her. I thought, earlier in the year, that I would be stepping away from the site, too. At the time, I was very happy and in love with a great girl. Unfortunately, it didn’t work out and here I am again, like when I started this blog, single… The only difference is that I’m not a pissed-off dork anymore. I’m just a dork. I’ve been thinking about things to do with the site, features to have and all that stuff. I’m at a loss and taking suggestions. You can always feel free to “Ask the Urban Dater” question or five. But, yeah, I’m not sure what I’m going to do with this here thing. One thing that’s come of the blog is that we’ve received amount of contributions from new authors and many of those pieces are pretty awesome. So I think we’ll continue to solicit guest content Oh, I suppose I’ll continue writing about dating mishaps and the like; I’m allegedly a couple years wiser and I can write a decent profile, apparently.
In the meantime, though, I suppose i will cozy up to my iMac and just start violently spanking it. I know, that’s gross. You didn’t expect me to refrain from the childish antics that have gotten me love and hate mail alike did you? Pish posh! As the future remains uncertain ( I suppose we all suffer from a lack of omniscience, huh?) I will continue to work on this boat and keep things moving; I may be a little more active. Stay tuned. – Alex, Registered with the Vagitarian Party. I stand with the poon. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Uncategorized Welcome back to another edition of ‘Ask the Urban Dater.’ Today’s question comes from a young maiden from America’s Bread basket, Beulah Birkenstocks. She has a great question that’s been on my mind a lot of late.
So let’s get to it! So I work at a restaurant and one of the new waiters (Anthony) who I just met yesterday gave me his phone number. He seems like a very nice guy and I’m flattered but there’s one problem….I’m 18 and a senior in high school and he’s 26-28. I never told him how old I was (I get mistaken for being older all the time) so I don’t think he knows how old I really am. But with an 8-10 year age difference is that even appropriate? How can I tell him I’m too young without making it awkward, especially if we have to make use of each other? — Beulah Birkenstocks Well, Beulah. First off, bless your heart for the thoughtful question. First off, I personally feel that age really is just a number; it’s not something that, in and of itself, is a basis of compatibility. That is, if the age gap is 5 or 10 years doesn’t mean that you’re not going to have a chemistry. People can have a huge age gap but still have the same interests or just have that chemistry. I’m 37 years old… Almost 40. I’m fucking old.
I dated a couple of women, recently, that were over ten years younger than myself. They didn’t last, but it wasn’t because of the age difference; the issues that kept us from dating weren’t age specific.
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We got along well, we had that chemistry. More recently, a woman asked me “So, do you mind if I fall short for the half your age plus seven rule?” Meaning: Do I mind entertaining the interest of a 22-year-old woman. No, I don’t mind. It’s not age that’s at issue. I think it comes down to how one has lived their life. Experience informs who we are as a person, how we approach problem and how we carry ourselves. The commonly held belief (based completely on my own assumptions) is that young people haven’t experienced much. But I know that notion is false.
Completely. I’ve met some young people who have lived a lot of life and experienced a great deal in a short amount of time. At the end of the day, if chemistry exists and you guys have things in common I say you go for it. It’s not inappropriate at all. That’s how I feel about the age gap. That said, don’t shit where you eat. Dating a co-worker is a recipe for disaster. No kidding. I’ve been burned by this more times than I care to discuss… Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Check out the cool cats at Met Another Frog Well kids, and it’s Monday and it’s going to be a fun day. Why? The good folks at Metanotherfrog.com have a piece up contributed by yours truly. Go to check that action out! Click the link http://fb.me/CW4sDfLZ to view the article and leave a comment. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!
Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dates & Details Tagged in: Dating, lessons Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook3Tweet0Pin1 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: dating online, relationship, single A few years ago, my wife (then-girlfriend) Alex and I were invited, by her friend, to go camping. Being city slickers, neither of us had much experience camping, but we ran out to Wal-Mart to get supplies. Knives, a tent, camping lanterns, you name it. As the camping weekend quickly approached, we quickly realized a cold, hard fact: neither of us wanted to go camping. We’re just not outdoorsy people. I spend most of my non-work time playing video games or watching movies; she’s either on her computer or reading. The problem was that we still had all that equipment, and were too proud (read: stubborn) to return it, and who knows? Maybe one day we would join in on a camping trip. We decided on a solution: turn date night into glamping night in our own backyard. Glamping, a portmanteau of “glamorous camping,” is pretty much what it says on the tin – camping with luxuries.
The Setup My job was to set up the tent. When I finished setting it up, I dragged a rug outside and put it inside the tent, providing some cushion for our sleeping bags. I highly recommend an air mattress and a large tent for added comfort. Other ideas to enhance your sleeping experience while glamping: Pillows. Lots of pillows. Build a pillow fort. Heated blankets. Why settle for regular blankets? Luxury sleeping bags. Splurge for the good ones. an air mattress with complete bed set.
For true glampers. Dinner Alex, meanwhile, cooked a dinner – on a real stove. She brought out actual plates, napkins, the works. We had a nice, normal dinner in our tiny backyard just outside Sacramento, staring into the dim stars shrouded by light pollution. Sure, we could have made hot dogs for the real camping feel, but this was glamping! She made chicken piccata. Of course, feel free to have something more camping-while-glamping on your own backyard date: Hamburgers. Go for the wagyu beef – real kobe if you can. Sloppy joes. Use those white linen napkins for the mess.
Popcorn. Add in some flavoring. Hot dogs. The ones with cheese inside. Fancy! Foil-wrapped Philly Cheesesteak. Super fancy! Add in wine, champagne, or a classy cocktail and you have yourself a glamp meal.
For recipes, Pinterest is definitely your friend. Setting the mood For ambiance, we had fake candles, turned on by remote but still providing light (I also suggest stringing up lights if possible).topadultreview.com If you feel so inclined, you can play wilderness sounds, especially if you are in the middle of the city, from an iPhone – docked in speakers, of course. For even better glamping, pull out a table and use a fancy table cloth. When I visited Australia, a tour did this the desert, instantly making the desert dinner a high-class affair. Your backyard will be similarly affected. Glamping activities As this was date night, and we had dinner, it was time for a movie. Our wi-fi reached our backyard, so I brought out my fully charged laptop and hopped on Netflix.
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If you are following our lead, I suggest a camping-related movie. As it’s date night, I suggest a horror movie for cuddling together in a sleeping bag while watching those poor campers in the wilderness chased by a crazed killer. Tucker and Dale Vs. Evil is perfect – plus it’s also got comedy. Dessert After the movie, we had dessert – the classic s’mores.
Microwaved, naturally, and assembled in our kitchen. And we weren’t even thinking glamping. If you have a fire pit, you can make the experience camping-authentic by melting the marshmallows with the flames. But this might be glamping! S’mores in an ice cream cone. S’mores chocolate martini. For an accompanying cocktail. Fig and ricotta cheesecake popsicle. Slightly healthier. The next morning Coffee isn’t hard to make while camping, but it’s certainly easier when you have a single-serve machine in your kitchen.
Or, just bring out a French press if you really want to rough it outside. We dragged out a kiddie pool and filled it up. What’s camping without swimming? Except we could take a shower that lasted more than 30 seconds afterward. We also employed squirt guns for added fun. Backyard glamping only scratches the surface That was the end of our glamping. For you, though, you could take glamping to the next level. We enjoyed having the creature comforts of being inside our house while still being our backyard, jokingly roughing it. You could easily add decorations or class up your glamping area even more. We had a simple camping tent, but perhaps you want a yurt or teepee. You can reserve glamping-specific campgrounds.
The sky, or perhaps your wallet, is the limit when it comes to glamour camping. Photo Cred: Teddy Kelley Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook46Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dates & Details Tagged in: camping, Date Ideas, glamping Many people gravitate towards big towns because of the excitement, career opportunities and the chance to enjoy a wide range of activities and entertainment, all in one place. But what happens when you’re looking to settle down with a partner? Is it harder to satisfy potential dates when you’re forever rushing around a buzzing metropolis? Are towns romance killers? Towns are breeding grounds for busy those who are focused on their careers. From the minute they get their morning coffee to when they leave their last meeting at night, they’re constantly moving from one place to the next. Cities promote this way of living, from express snack shops to fast-moving public transport. The only time anyone has a minute to themselves is when they’re waiting for something. Even then they’ll be checking their Smartphones for the next appointment. Making time for love Even those who are committed to their careers should still try and make time for a little romance in their lives. It can be tough to slow down, particularly when you live in place where everything is constantly on the go. However, everybody deserves to be happy and relationships are an important part of life.
But how do you go about meeting someone when your lifetime is all back to back meetings and no one seems to have a minute spare? People who have lived in city for a while can become cynical. Striking up a conversation with a complete stranger isn’t always welcome as people tend to hold themselves back more than they would in a smaller town. Online dating helps busy people find love Meeting dates in bars can be time-consuming. Even speed dating isn’t so speedy when you consider travel time. Online dating allows city singles to find love quickly and easily with minimal time needed. By starting a personal profile, and using specific search functions, singles can meet potential dates in no time at all. Even if you’ve only got ten minutes spare, that’s more than enough to check your messages once a day and look for people you want to connect with. (Click here to find out more). Busy people who haven’t been in a relationship for a while may form doubts about whether it’s a good idea to start looking. It can be nerve-racking to think about having another person in your life when you’ve been so used to your own company.Taking some online dating advice could make the search for love easier so that even the busiest of people have the best chance of finding love. The search for love may not be straightforward however you choose to do it, but it’s important to give yourself the best chance. Whether you live in a city or a small village, online dating can help you on your way. – The preceding was a sponsored post. You can read up on our disclosure statement here. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!
Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook16Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Tips & Advice Dating and Mating and Marriage? I’m in there like swimwear! For a number of years two names have always had a warm place in my random-joke repertoire. Joyce DeWitt and Greg fucking Evagan. Those two names have caused people to raise and eyebrow and walk the other direction because, frankly, most people don’t know who they are even though they were a little bit famous at one point. In fact it’s somewhat core to my random joke telling that those two people never do anything noteworthy ever again… Which is why it pains and excites me to let you know that Joyce Dewitt has a new play “Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating and Marriage.” Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage is the story of Miss Abigail, the most sought-after relationship expert to the stars (think Dr. Ruth meets Emily Post), and her sexy sidekick Paco, as they travel the world teaching Miss Abigail’s outrageously funny “how-to’s” on dating, mating and marriage!
Check out more at: http://missabigailsguide.com As a reader of the Urban Dater, you can see this show ( if you’re in NYC, of course) you can get discount tickets to see Joyce DeWitt resurrect acting career and make you say “Chrissy and Jack who?” You can pickup your tickets here and be sure to use the promo code “BLOG” to get a nifty discount. Tell em the Urban Dater sent ya. If you do, nothing happens… We’ve just always wanted to say that to people. Makes us feel pretty cool n’ stuff. Enjoy! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Advert, News i really like you. Such simple words. Why, then are they so difficult to say? Many people wrestle with the decision to say them for some time. They wonder if it is the right time. Is it too soon?
Will the other person say it back? Will they flip out that I am saying it, and will it force them to bail on me? And this is just the thought process for the person who ISN’T prone to over-thinking everything. So when is a good time to tell someone new that you love them? There are those who seem to fall in love instantly and say the words as if they have no meaning. On the other end of the spectrum, there are those who avoid the words as if they will be struck by lightning if ever they say them out loud. There simply must be a happy medium. Most people say that “You will just know once the right time is to say it.” Gee. Thanks. Best advice I ever received. Still others say that you should wait until you fully believe that the other person will say the words in return. And, while this may be the best advice yet, it is often nearly impossible to decipher another person’s thoughts, no matter how well you know them. But this then begs the question: what happens if your feelings aren’t reciprocated? Or, what if someone says those three dreaded words to you and you don’t feel the same way? This can cause a great deal of awkwardness in a relationship. Some dread these words being said because they think that there is then an obligation to say them in return.
They think that if one person says that they are in love and the other isn’t, the relationship is ultimately doomed. They think that these one-sided sentiments cannot be overcome and that the one in love will not understand that the other person does not feel the same way. Personally, I disagree with these people. Though love is an emotional thing, sometimes logic must simply be applied. No two people are going to fall in love at exactly the same time. This is not a Hollywood happy ending where everybody seems to fall in love and live happily ever after in a 1-week period. In real life, one person will simply fall in love faster than the other. So what would you do if someone says “I love you” and you don’t feel the same? One theory is that you should simply say “No you don’t.” This would give the one “in love” the chance to think about whether or not they truly feel that way, while saving face. Not only is it hard to say “I love you,” but sometimes it is hard to realize whether or not you are truly in love with a person. This response gives both parties time to realize how they feel about each other. Not only that, but the other person will likely not say those words again unless you say them first. In the end, there is no ideal time frame in which to tell someone that you love them. Each situation is unique, just like the individuals involved. Each person has to decide what is right for them. But, consider the ramifications carefully.
After all, having someone say “I love you” without meaning it is far worse than never hearing it at all. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Relationships Tagged in: Dating, love, Relationships Go on Dates Anyone that knows me knows the following: 1. I will throw a puppy into the sun if I’m having a bad day. 2. I smell of coriander and elderberries. 3. I heart TECH! I’m able to weave each of these interesting bits of myself into the Urban Dater, especially where it concerns technology. How About We… takes a different approach to the online dating game with the primary. The approach?
Getting people offline! What a novel concept!! I was asked to take a look at HowAboutWe… and see how their website jives with me. I was particularly skeptical at first.